Our Decisions and Values
The consequences of today’s choices will always have a follow up, but will you allow it to teach you, mold you and set you free?
I am not sure if many of you smoke, but the concept is easy you light it up, inhale and release it. The power released was the smooth exchange of your current episode and the substance embedded in the filters going into your body. All you needed was that minute and a half to get out your head and get back into the moment. That decision to step out to inhale that piece of heaven has its consequences whether you are aware of it or not. Of course, we can say later that “we can stop at any time”, and “it does not hurt anyone” who is not around to be affected by it. That is the threat once you release a whole community can suffer by the inferno left in that bud. And although that piece is burning out, it is the silhouettes of the fumes that catch the attention of some neighborhood children. Pretty extreme but a storyline.
Responsibility, as we age, we carry a great deal of it. It is in our decisions that we create them getting married, having children, quitting a job, getting drunk and driving. Even the extreme of our decisions have consequences good and bad. The values you honor will help you stay in line and cater to you and the responsibility that comes with it. Values are the standards or beliefs that we follow to act on the type of life we desire. Valuing your space, emotions, privacy, and career are just some of the common ones. If you find individuals that have the same values relationships and bonds are created.
The second we witness encounters that do not align to us we question it. This is where most people revaluate theirs or take a deeper look. Example, many would value loyalty and nothing in their actions exhibits your level of loyalty. Mark Manson explained how people measure their values with custom metrics that help keep themselves in line. The misconception of that is that others may not see the sense of the metrics used to declare that their values are the same. Now let us insert some maturity into play and introduce it.
If I value nonviolence, I will not express any interest in violence even provoked. The moment I give in to the act of violence I carry the responsibility for whatever comes along with it. The people affected by my actions, even if I won or lost will have their own set of values to review and views may be turn. See how that works, on the other hand on a personal level I alone will deal with that. We are humans designed for failure, disappointment, and pain it is what gives us meaning.
To suffer unwantedly means that you have not learned a lesson. This will continue the agony we believe we have been unlucky, no you just not special no one is. Once you deal with the reality of your decisions, you can now be open to the responsibility that comes with it. It would still be aggravating, but you would bare it better you would understand the meaning of it all is self- improvement.
The decisions we make create ripple effect of mini consequences, we can choose daily on what they can be. Having good values can lessen the anxiety or whatever comes unwanted your way. It is what keeps us real and authentic in the times the world will tell you otherwise, you will never fold. Do not be hard on yourself, as we age, we have responsibilities catered to those decisions. The more you seek what is aligned for you the more this world does not seem so bad. Enjoy it!
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